Dear readers,
it seems that my words were unclear.
A very unfortunate situation indeed, for I have asked for some thoughts, co-operation and brainstorming. I think you were about to give it, but were hindered by my not-so-clear introduction.
Allow me to have a tabula rasa in this subject.
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I volunteer at an organization (I recently quitted - another story). Each month this year members and volunteers organize a special evening. Each month is focused on one of the disabled group of people.
If you think of the circle of 'handicapped' people, please think about it in a broader sense. Those who have some serious physical disability (like having no sight for example) are clearly handicapped. The mentally challenged are also. Their place and potential in life is limited, right?
There are the homeless, the poor, the list is endless.
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It seems to me that somehow, everyone is handicapped in some way. But I DO think it's another story. Well, I have to learn to keep my mouth shut.
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Okay, here's the organization.
Each month.
A disabled group.
It's October.
The subject is 'family'.
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Sometime in the spring, it was 'women/women with kids'.
Do you see how they fit into the category of handicapped?
I don't know about your circumstances, but in Hungary a woman gets less salary than a man in the same position in the very same firm.
Women are supposed to work PLUS do all the cooking AND housekeeping and be that lovey-dovey wife, while not being acknowledged for all those tremendeous efforts they usually do for the sake of the family.
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Feminism put aside, October is about FAMILY.
I don't know about your circumstances, but in Hungary there's no such a thing as tax by families. We have things like a long maternity leave (for 1,5 YEARS after the baby is born the mother receives 75% of her last salary), a monthly childcare allowance paid by employers.
It may all sound nice, but money-wise that's just about it.
There are 3 of us who are doing this project.
We have the assumption that FAMILY as such is decaying.
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I don't know about your circumstances, but apart from the XXth century, FAMILY in Hungary used to mean the co-living of generations. Children grew up hard working, yes, that is one side of the coin, BUT they were surrounded not only by their grandparents, but in most cases, by their grand-grandparents as well. Sometimes the very old had to work, too, but they were also there to tell stories, fables and ease any pain the young met.
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Where are those (grand-) grandparents now?
Where is a normal family now?
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And now, about the word ROOT - that stirred up my kind readers the most.
In the Hungarian language, root (gyökér) refers to
1.) the part of a plant that is within the ground. It is to supply the plant with nutrients and water, right?
2.) quite metaphorically, the very same word refer to one's family.
If you come to think about it was your parents (and grandparents) who have made you come to alive, and they did supply you with all the necessary elements to make you become of what you are now. I'm speaking, as I more often than not, BOTH in the physical, psychological and mental sense. I mean all the three aspects. If one's adopted, one got the body from his real parents, but all the rest must be coming from the adoptive parents, right?
Without a root, a plant dies.
And so do humans without a family.
Anyone disagreeing?
There.
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Now, the word gyökér (root) has undergone a change in the past few decades.
From being a neutral word, it became a negative judgement about one's mental capacities. A synonim for being dumb, inarticulate, incoherent, unintelligent, ignorant. Thanks Thesaurus, I love you.
I remember when in highschool I was taught the word 'g-a-y'. It was just an ordinary word for me, nothing more. (Special punctuation is for search engines. Or rather, against them.)
Later on I was informed that it had other, very specific connotations attached to it.
Would I, in my right mind use the very same 3-letter word to describe someone who's happy?/animate?/colorful?/bright?
No way!
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So the word gyökér (root), which used to have a nice feeling around it, for it referred to something nutritive, familiar (I'm playing with words here, people), desireable... Now people see the word as something negative.
I believe in the power of words.
Why else would I be writing this?
If we attach meanings to words, there'll be meaning within them.
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If we think the very word 'root' is undesireable, then sooner or later we'll begin having the same ideas about the meaning BEHIND the pure combination of four letters. (root).
My hypothesis is that derogating the word 'root' means derogating the meaning behind it, too.
This event will NOT be a linguistic lecture for sure.
It is just an example.
We have started to consider our 'roots' as something negative.
I think this is a TERRIBLE MISTAKE.
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I love this word: mistake.
For me it means that we mis-take. Choose something falsely.
(Did I mention I was conservative, btw? Perhaps, to mainstream liberalists like those in the leadership of that women's organization my ideas will mean nothing.)
I think that's enough.
Tell me to shoot myself.